We’ve Investigated Cheating Spouses for Over 20 Years.. Here Are Some of the Signs of Infidelity
As private investigators, we have conducted surveillance on potential cheating spouses for many years. When our clients have come to us, there are common reasons they suspect their husband or wife is being unfaithful. There is no magic formula to truly know if your spouse has another person in their life unless there’s clear evidence.
However, we have put together the common signs that a spouse has something to hide based on our experience in the field.
He/She Is Emotional and/or Physically Distance from You
This is often the first thing you may sense something is wrong. They sit farther away from you while on their phone (another sign if they are on their phone more than usual), conversations are shorter and surface level, and the intimacy between you two is close to gone.
Every married couple has highs and lows and there will be times where you guys may not be in sync. But it’s all about the energy they give off. If he or she is the only one acting off or distant, this could be a sign of guilt or they would rather give their energy to someone else.
Appearances Become More Important to Them
They begin going to the gym more often, upgrade their wardrobe, and may even be more conscious of their diet. Now, making healthier lifestyle changes aren’t necessarily a bad thing or mean they are cheating. In fact, it’s good to take care of yourself.
But if these changes are sudden or they seem defensive about their change, this could mean there is someone else they are trying to impress. Oftentimes when a spouse wants to be healthier or change up their style, they often talk to their spouse about it or ask for their support.
The key is secrecy. Again, if they seem defensive if you ask about their change in appearance, they could be hiding other things.
Their Interests Have Changed
You and your spouse may have a common love for alt rock music or picking up dinner at your favorite Chinese place every Sunday night. But suddenly, your husband or wife is more interested in indie pop and suddenly no longer wants to go to that Chinese restaurant. Those things you bonded over when you two were dating are things of the past.
Sure, people and their interests may change as they get older but if you feel as though you’re married to a different person, something might be up. This is especially true if they are mutual interests you guys share that made you fall in love.
When the foundation of your relationship changes, more often than not it’s because someone else is in the picture that your spouse is sharing new interests with.
Changes in Spending Habits
From ATM withdrawals to expensive nights at the bar, a change in your spouse’s spending habits can tip you off there is someone else in the picture. We’ve even found evidence of cheating partners booking hotels in the same town they live in. Not all cheaters are as slick as they think.
Check your bank statements and see if there is any suspicious activity or if something is out of the ordinary. If you do not have access to the bank statements, this may be more difficult. Look for any mailed bank statements or anything you can find to review the finances.
Their Friends Act Differently Around You
Friends can often see the signs before you do. And your spouse may have even shared details to them about an affair. So if you notice their friends acting differently around you or try to avoid you altogether, there is almost always something they know that you don’t. When the vibes are off then there is something they know that you don’t.
The same goes for family members. If your spouse is close to their family then they may have confessed to having an affair or uncertainty with the marriage. This sign is not always as obvious, but when it comes to an affair, you are often the last one to find out.
Things Between You and Your Spouse Just Feel… Off
You know your spouse better than anyone. If something feels off then there’s a chance something is wrong. Trust your gut. If things feel off then chances are there could be. Before taking any action, try talking to your partner in a compassionate manner. Maybe they are going through something else that is not an affair.
However, if you suspect your spouse is having an affair, you need clear evidence first before confronting them. Our team of private investigators have been catching cheating spouses for over 20 years in Georgia and South Carolina. We gather fact-based evidence that can be used in court and help build our case.
For more information, schedule a free consultation with CGA Solutions today.