Infidelity Most Commonly Occurs During the Holiday Season
The holidays are full of joy, celebration, and time with friends and family. However, the sad matter of a fact is that it’s also the time when the most infidelities occur. It’s hard on so many people who are also busy doing their holiday shopping, prepping their homes for guests, and going out to the various holiday events, such as office parties.
This is not to mean that all spouses who are taking a little longer than usual at the grocery store are meeting with a boyfriend or girlfriend. After all, it’s the holidays, so crowds and long lines will be everywhere. But if you’ve had an intuitive feeling that something is wrong in the marriage, the holidays are the best time to get the answers your mind is racing to figure out.
Why Are Affairs the Most Common During the Holidays?
The American Psychological Association (APA) found that 38% of people find that their stress levels increase during the holidays. On top of that, the National Alliance on Mental Illness (NAMI) reports 64% of those with a diagnosed mental illness feel their symptoms worsen around the holidays. Does this excuse infidelity? No. But it does give some context into some people’s mental state during this period.
On top of that, alcohol consumption is higher than usual during this time with all the holiday events and parties that take place. Alcohol lowers a person’s inhibition and may lead them to seek out pleasure outside the home. Again, it is not an excuse for infidelity, but it does provide some context for why affairs happen more often during this time.
Signs of an Affair
Besides physical evidence your spouse is having an affair, the signs of one are not 100%. But, you know your husband or wife better than anyone. And if something in your gut is telling you that someone else has taken their interest, don’t ignore it. Often times your intuition is more right than you think. Some of the signs your spouse is
having an affair can include:
- Emotional and physical distance
- Change in interests that seem sudden
- Unusual change in spending habits
- Their appearance suddenly becomes much more important to them
- Their friends act different around you
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If you notice these signs and something inside you is screaming that something is wrong, the
next step is to do some investigating. Just having a feeling is not enough to confront your spouse. Especially during a special time like the holidays. To do so, you’ll need to do some sleuthing. Or, hire a PI to do the physical surveillance themselves while you focus on prepping for the holiday guests and gifts.
Check the Credit Card Statements Twice
As mentioned above, a change in spending habits can be a sign of an affair. Millions of people are suffering financial hardships in this recession, so if your spouse is being stingier than usual about money, something else could be going on at work. This is where you can do some investigating yourself.
Since the holidays are a time for buying gifts, decorations, food, and entertainment, look for items on the credit card statements that stand out – even look back the last couple of months to see if there are any dinners, jewelry shop stops, or trips that you didn’t know about. This is the easiest step to take before conducting a full investigation and put you one step ahead of their lies.
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How to Approach the Situation During the Holidays
Suspicions of infidelity are never an easy thing to navigate – especially during the holidays. Avoid bringing it up at gatherings for now. It’s a hard situation, but unless you have clear evidence, there’s no need to spoil the holiday festivities. If rational evidence is what you need, look to hire a private investigator. A PI will gather all the hard proof you need to make an informed decision regarding next steps.
For more information, contact CGA Solutions today. We are licensed in Georgia and South Carolina.